I LOVE My Womb (Photo Challenge): Day 1 – Favourite African Goddess

Today’s photo challenge was to post a photo of my favorite African Goddess. Yemaya is the African Orisha Goddess (ruler of the ocean, deep seas, and lakes), that I connect with the most. I don’t know everything about her, AND every time the opportunity for learning more about African Orishas come up, I’m always drawn to Yemaya’s energy.

I believe I connect with Yemaya, off top, because of her association with water. It took a long time for me to get used to water. I mean, I like to drink it and bathe in it, but large masses of water sort of freak me out. That feeling is because, I am not the best swimmer.

I have the worst childhood memories of me vs large bodies of water. For instance, this one time when I was on a field trip (age 5 or 6) at the local YMCA, and instead of the swim instructor LOVINGLY coaching me through my fears of being in the swimming pool (no floaties at all), this fool drops me in the deep part of the pool. You know that saying, “sink or swim”? Well, I sunk. I didn’t put up a fight to even try to swim. I literally gave in to the water.

Another time, (around the age of 7 to 9), I was at the beach with a family friend. The day was beautiful, partly sunny, and full of all the sandcastles I could make, because, I WAS NOT GOING NEAR THE OCEAN. Playing along the shore, I also watched how other kids, and just people in general, were fearlessly enjoying the ocean, I mean all the way up to their waists. And to me, that was unheard of, because once again, I WAS NOT GOING NEAR THE OCEAN.

Bravery, started to settle in, because I wanted to experience the same joy THOSE people were feeling in the ocean. I put my  little blue pail aside, and began to walk towards the shoreline. Water hitting right at my toes, I went in a little further. Water hitting right at my ankles, I went in a little bit more. Water hitting right at my knees, and I’m starting to feel myself a lil’ bit… so much, that I turned my back to the ocean and stepped in further, and now the water is hitting right at the middle of my thighs.

I turned around to look at everyone playing in the ocean, who is now behind me, and fear automatically sets in. The biggest wave I’ve ever seen is rising high, and it looks like it’s about to swallow me. I try to run, but as the tide is moving me back and forth, my feet loses it’s grip because guess what? I’m standing on a sand bar!

So when I come back to consciousness on the shore, all I can remember is a big ass wave swallowing me, taking me deep into the ocean, and throwing me back on the shore. Talk about NEVER EVER wanting to get near an ocean again, that was me!

So now, being grown and conquering some fears associated with water, I’m not so afraid.

I said all of that to say, my experiences with water has played a major role in my life, by cleansing (physical and spiritual) and, ritual healing and offering. The representation of Yemaya and water, could have been a mini rites of passage for my role as the person I am today, a mother, a nurturer, empathic, a healer, etc…

For me, I connect with Yemaya because of her associations with the number 7, spirituality, moonstone, clear quartz, turquoise, sandalwood, and cowrie shells (all of my favorite things). And although, I may have had a traumatic experience with what Yemaya is the ruler of, being in tune with her energy gives me comfort, healing, and understanding to the wombman I am, and becoming.

She is water, she is magic, she is healing, she is Mama Watta!

My intention for the remainder of the #ILOVEMYWOMB photo challenge is to bring Yemaya into my morning meditations.

To get in on this awe-inspiring and fun journey of womb healing and awareness, follow along and participate each day for the next 30 days, of the #ILOVEMYWOMBPHOTOCHALLENGE (@ILOVEMYWOMB).

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The Buddha Spotlight : Yogini Khara Perkins

Namastè y’all!

New Year Blessings to all of you!

The Buddha Spotlight introduces you to Yogini Khara Perkins!

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“I am ever grateful to the technology, science and beauty of Yoga and to all that have shared their gifts directly and indirectly with me. From my introduction to yoga as a child, developing a consistent practice in young adulthood, during each pregnancy, and as a mother, it has and continues to assist in all aspects of my life experience. Having been exposed to a variety of approaches to Hatha yoga, most notably Iyengar and more recently Yin. I have come to acknowledge that there is great benefit in mixing our approach to the practice of yoga. There is no one way all the time for everyone. Cultivating our awareness of what we need can change as we experience ourselves from the gross to the subtle. It is from this perspective of healing and connection that I seek to be of service to others. In our sharing, growing, and “wholing” may we all recognize, acknowledge, and surrender to the innate wisdom within each of us.”

–Khara Perkins

 

Goddess Mena Love: When did you fall in LOVE with yoga?

Kara Perkins: I fell in LOVE with yoga for the first time while practicing with Bonnie Quiceno in Miami, FL. I was finishing up undergraduate studies and living in the dorms at the time I started the classes, which were held 2 minutes walking distance away. My practice became more consistent during this time. As I practiced at least 3 times a week, the benefits were very easy to recognize and felt so wonderful. Bonnie’s classes are challenging and a fusion, so to speak, of yoga and it’s limbs, dance, martial arts, bodywork, sound therapy, energy medicine, and sacred geometry. There is space to embody oneself and the importance of staying connected to this space for guidance and wisdom. And most importantly is her use of play as a fundamental ingredient to a “fresh” approach and perspective with all things, so that nothing becomes stale and that which is kept close resonates deeply and assists us with presence. These seedlings of experience are still growing and nurtured to this day. It also helped that the classes were so close in those days, a lot! I discovered that the days I felt like going the least were often deeper experiences. I fell in LOVE again when I practiced and ultimately did my teacher training with Subhadra Bowman of YogaAngels (CA and JA). I have received so much from Subhadra’s guidance. She introduced to me to Iyengar and his approach to yoga and it’s limbs, and the healing of yoga therapy. She is a medicine woman, firecracker, rule breaker, deeply passionate, super experienced, and committed to her best as a human, woman, teacher, entrepreneur and mother. I am so grateful that I have been in the presence of these amazing beings!

 

Goddess Mena Love: What style of yoga do you practice? Why?

Khara: I do not practice any one particular style, although most fall under the umbrella of Hatha yoga. I mostly draw from Iyengar, some Yin, and some Kundalini. I would like to practice and learn more Kemetic, aspects of Ashtanga, and Kundalini. I also LOVE dance and martial arts. Why? Because it’s in my nature to have a variety of things mixed together. In many ways it’s all the same at the core and the different approaches can be sources of inspiration.

 

Goddess Mena Love: What was the turning point for you, that got you started on your existing spiritual routine?

Khara: A general gnawing of unease that really started to take shape as a pre-teen and continued to various depths of depression into my twenties. Reacquainting my self with yoga in combination with the dissatisfaction I was experiencing with myself and life crystallized the importance of practicing the tools I was learning in class. Having children has been the hugest catalyst to dig deeper, to clarify, and to continually practice to embody what keeps me most connected to my highest alignment possible in any given moment. I can feel quite far from my highest alignment pretty regularly, but I am reminded time and again that I can utilize my energy for anything I want to. Why spend it on cultivating/maintaining disconnection and lack mentality? I have found deep patterns within myself that favor the cultivation of disconnection within and outside of myself so the focus has become putting in to place new patterns and the practices that support me in doing so. The practice of Self-Care is the practice of Self-Love and is so crucial to embodying acceptance and appreciation for Self. Which then translates in to everything we are connected to. My spiritual routine evolves as I do.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: Finish this statement. Yoga gives me access to….

Khara: Yoga gives me access to openness, oneness, acceptance, Self.

 

Goddess Mena Love: What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned from teaching yoga?

Khara: “If you want to learn something, read about it. If you want to understand something, write about it. If you want to master something, teach it.” Yogi Bhajan

This quote helped me to build confidence towards teaching yoga. It still resonates every time. Far from feeling like a master, it is the type of exploration and “lab”, if you will, that arises out of playing with the role of teacher. In that light, teaching yoga has taught me that we are all students and teachers simultaneously all the time. It shows me the importance of practicing clear communication. It’s an honor to hold space as a “teacher”. Teaching feeds my life and practices and is a space and time to delve into what these can be. The classes I left feeling my worst have provided some of the greatest moments of growth and the classes I left feeling my best were when I was able to “get out of the way” while still being present. It has shown me that the class is a potential container for us all to experience our highest alignment and healing. It is what we bring or don’t bring to it and how we interpret and integrate the “lessons” that unfold before us. And if and how we listen to the answers we receive from our own inner guidance. We are our own greatest teachers because we determine what we learn and apply. Teaching has reaffirmed the belief that we all want to feel safe, accepted, and whole; essentially LOVED. Once we feel LOVED (foremost from our Self) we can heal and vibrate/hold higher and higher frequencies.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: How important is it to change your diet while living a more spiritual life? How greatly does your diet impact your spiritual life?

Khara: The importance/relevance of one’s diet is tied to our spiritual pursuits and perceptions and changes accordingly. Diet cannot be separated from our spirituality. And food is not the only thing we eat/consume. We are what we consume on all levels in all ways. So what we listen to inside and outside of ourselves, the feelings we have, the emotions we harbor, the food we eat, the movements we make, etc. these all feed us on various levels and fill us and comprise our personality, mentality, physicality, the sum of our identity. How these things impact us determines how nutritious they are to our whole being. The energy transference and release are fundamental to the resonance within us. How catalyzed we are as a result of what we take in or take on is also evidence of how much we are benefited. Our awareness, our attention to this energy within ourselves and everything else supports us and is further supported by each choice/non-choice we make in regards to the quality/quantity of food or anything else we “eat”. This includes the energy we are infused with and bring to any given moment. An example of this in the “positive” is the blessing of food with prayer, song, awareness, gratitude, etc. Our energy and attention while blessing potentially impacts what we are eating to the point of transforming “negative” characteristics of the food into “positive” ones within our body, our being.

Masuru Emoto, known for the impact of energy on water, and the pictures he took of different water crystals exposed to different vibrations/energy clearly demonstrates this affect. The energy we transmit has the magic to transform. This is inherently spiritual. As we get clearer, honor and embody our spiritual connections more and more consistently we become more present with what vibrations we allow into our invironment/environment (internal/external respectively). Becoming more sensitive to the impacts, and less attached to the emotion, the ideas, or triggers around consumption. Our awareness and connection to why we are choosing to consume and/or allow something into our bodies is key. More than perhaps what we are specifically eating or drinking. I do not believe that to be a yogi one must be vegan or eat only organic, although one may find that it is more suitable as one refines and becomes clearer. Changing our relationship to food specifically through fasting, cleansing, or detoxing puts us in direct connection with the impacts on our bodies and mind and the habits we perpetuate around food, often unconsciously. And again this can be applied to all areas of our lives. So that we become more attentive to how we participate in the cycles of life that support, provide for, and nourish us. Our relationship to the cosmos, the earth, the elements, all of our relations, our food, etc. shifts as our consciousness grows. Spirit is within Everything.

 

Goddess Mena Love: What’s your favorite healthy comfort food?

Khara: Homemade vegan ice cream! One of the awesome aspects of living in Jamaica is having access to tropical superfoods. Like coconut, many varieties of mango, banana and avocado, raw chocolate, and so much more! And it’s super easy to make.

 

Goddess Mena Love: Who or what inspires you?

Khara: (My) children and Spirit

 

Goddess Mena Love: What’s your favorite quote?

Khara: You can’t run away from your Self – Bob Marley

The way you do anything, is the way you do everything – Suzanne Evans

This too shall pass – every parent and most humans on this earth!

 

Goddess Mena Love: How was your Kemetic yoga training experience?

Khara: I have yet to do an official Kemetic yoga training. So my experience mostly comes from the classes I have taken with Yirser Ra Hotep, Aunkh Aakhu and a few of their respective students. I find Kemetic yoga to be highly empowering, particularly because of the attention to Kemetic cosmology and use of the Kemetic pantheon of Gods and Goddesses and their symbolism. I love that it directly ties us to Africa. The more we make connections, the more evident the overlap of influences that tie us all together as humans becomes. We must All be included in the human story because we are All a part of the human story. For any part of us that is left out makes us all incomplete.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: Do you have days where you just don’t feel like practicing yoga? If so, what keeps you motivated to continue your practice?

Khara: Hell yes, quite often I don’t feel like it! I am learning that this is absolutely fine and to look beyond what the surface of these moments are about. And again my children are HUGE motivators. When I still find myself resisting, it can feel like it takes my whole everything to put one foot in front of the other, to speak consciously, to take the deep breaths or sit outside or shape into a child’s pose: so I aim to implement whatever amount/extent of the tools and self-compassion I have to move through those most challenging moments. Choosing to be Alive, ultimately keeps me motivated to continue to practice. There is no way out, only through. I am tired of the mediocrity, fear, and miserableness that can pervade daily living. And the biggest control of that impact is making sure that I am nurturing my best, being playful, uncovering what supports my highest alignment and staying as open as possible. The time comes when we have had enough of the bullshit we uphold ourselves.

 

Goddess Mena Love: Why the move to Jamaica?

Khara: I left Los Angeles, CA where I was born and raised, to finish studies at FIU in Miami, FL. At FIU I met my future husband and baby daddy. He was born and primarily raised in Kingston, JA. When we were ready to make a move, we decided on Jamaica. I also enjoy living in new places, and Jamaica is full of beauty!

 

Goddess Mena Love: You participated and was one of the facilitators in the GITW 10 Day Inspirational Quest, in a video you posted you shed some light on “learning to look at the negative in a different light”, can you expound a bit more about that, and how your personal experiences brought you to think in this way?

Khara: If we agree that energy is energy no matter what label(s) we attach, that energy has intelligence and recycles itself and that where I place my attention energy then goes. It follows that wherever my attention is drawn to, there is information there. We have been operating on the premise of duality but it is also a continuum of the one same thing, i.e. yin and yang or two-sides to the same coin. These concepts express that on the other side of “whatever” is the perceived opposite. Just like the saying “on the other side of your fear is your truth” illustrates. Which is how a so-called negative thought can help us to unravel or get closer to the so-called positive and to our core. When we detach from labeling the thought (energy) bad or good and see it as a moment where our awareness/energy is focused then we can start to play with what is a part or at the root of these thoughts or emotions.

For instance, one day after comparing myself to some one else and starting to feel envious, I started to assess what I was envious of, really, and boiled it down more and more until it was clear that all the things I was envious of, were really projections of what I wanted for and from me. Really and truly the other person might not have had any of those things. Everything I think about others or that I tell myself someone else is thinking of me, are still my stories and what I want for or how I think of myself. I used the envy as a gateway to clarify what I wanted and to find the ways to bring these same qualities forth in a positive and supportive way in my life. Another layer to this is that because of our upbringing we are often more acquainted and/or comfortable with the negative. For me it has been so much that on another day I was looking at something from “The Desire Map” by Danielle LaPorte, and “asking” yet again what I wanted. I had absolutely no clue, speechless with my mouth open. I think I tried for a bit to conjure something and then probably put my journal down. So, I started pondering on where to start or how to start to know what I wanted. Over and over again, until I gave myself the permission to really hear that what I want can be found in what I don’t want when I reframe what I don’t want into a positive form. Instead of stifling the “I don’t want” and perpetuating cycles of habit, it can be utilized for clarity.

Another example, I want to figure out the characteristics of my ideal house to live in. If all I can think about is what I don’t want, then I start there until what I want starts to take shape and reveal itself (might not all come at the same time, be patient). I know that I don’t want to live in a dark house where I don’t feel or see sunlight. Which shows that I desire sunlight in the house that I live in. Then I can make this declaration of what I want, which was always there, but in a different form. Then I can become more definitive about the optimal feelings, amount of sunlight, and how to design this into the house I have currently and/or for the one I will emanate to the universe and manifest. It’s a useful habit to practice stating words in the positive/affirmative/present tense whenever we are communicating (especially to children). We can always restate them quietly or loudly when we find ourselves stating them in a negative way. Eventually we will have re-patterned the negative habits and live in a more positive framework.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: Why do you think we are so hard on ourselves while in the process of trying to better ourselves?

Khara: As a generalization, because of how we are socialized, educated, domesticated (The Four Agreements), raised to interact with the world around us and within us. This shapes our major identity/personality and the myriad identities we attach to and utilize to uphold the constructs we have built our perception upon. Most of us are much more comfortable with fighting ourselves since it is a root feature of how we are raised. Add to that the amount of fear that pervades most of our upbringing and then becomes the major root of the patterns and coping strategies we create to survive our experiences that then become the sources of future complexities and disease. Unwittingly, our grandparents, parents, family, teachers, and us, perpetuate every day subtle or overt events/traumas/circumstances that create a disassociation with our Self.

It is rampant in the general Western approach to life. Disconnection, separation, the focus on mind over heart, on the masculine, the physical, individuality, etc. translates into how we approach everything else. We are taught and continue to practice the negation of self for others without having a bigger fabric of community to find a meaningful place within. We are left to resist ourselves in a perceived isolation while we force ourselves into tiny funny shaped boxes that we don’t fit into in an effort to fit with something/someone, to feel connected and accepted. I think it is a part of our design to externalize, to look outward for our meaning and acceptance, the problem comes when the external does not give us this or there is fear and mistrust, so that in turn we do not have guidance to build the connection and meaning internally and are left without the needed support.

Our foundations are not “properly set” to start building upon. We learn to override or cloud what we truly want from such early ages in extremely subtle ways. We start to create the patterns and lay the grooves for habits of masochistic tendencies and they can start to take shape from in the womb. So now flash forward to us as bigger people, when things just don’t feel right and we want to make some changes or shifts. We have to learn to recognize the patterns of self- abuse that we have accepted and/or cultivated and that more than likely feel very normal. If we were All raised with unconditional LOVE, abundance, connection to spirit, and appreciation for Self, consider how different your perspective of yourself and your world would be. If we take a look, a lot of the techniques of the “self-help” world have a lot to do with reclaiming the things/aspects we were born with that were stripped from us. Like what we truly want, reconnecting with our in born talents, not conforming to a cookie cutter existence, embracing our hearts and bodies and integrating them with our minds, reconnecting with nature, playing, feeling, appreciating and cultivating our imaginations. We are born designed with all of this and more. We are now on a mission to reclaim our birthright so that we may truly build upon our unique positions as human beings. We are in a process now to reweave them into our own, others and children’s experience to foster environments and ways that strengthen our connectivity and highest potential.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: I am currently in a manifestation vortex of creating a baby with my partner. When I am blessed to carry our baby, I’ll be very interested in taking pre-natal yoga. Can you explain some of the benefits of pre-natal yoga?

Khara: The benefits of prenatal yoga are essentially the same as non-prenatal yoga. The major difference being the presence of another life that is being shaped by everything we do and don’t do and our energy around this. To me everything about yoga is beneficial to the pre and postnatal journey just as it is to our life journey. Our approach to our practice can highlight how we approach our life, our self, and others. What we practice during a (prenatal) yoga class can be applied at any time. Forming a deeper relationship with our breath, creating space to honor and care for self and others, honor and care for baby, moving and opening our bodies, meditating, relaxing, going beyond the perceived limits of our minds and bodies in the moment, and releasing fear and emotions, are some of the benefits that come from (prenatal) yoga. When applied our experience is more open and enriching during the birth process, as parents, as little and big people, and ultimately as the world.

 

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Goddess Mena Love: I also would LOVE to teach pre-natal yoga. How has teaching prenatal yoga empowered you?

Khara: It is such a wonderful blessing and honor to share and hold space for life. Pregnant women are so beauty-full and to know that there is another life forming and receiving the benefits of their mother’s practice is amazing. Pregnant women are an awesome reminder of the cycle of life, the beauty of life, and the brilliant design of nature and our bodies. To have the opportunity to co-create a space where women can connect with their power, innate wisdom and trust in their bodies and babies is immensely empowering. It feels like activism and the planting of seeds that will bear fruit in the generations to come.

 

Goddess Mena Love: What’s your favorite song/movie? What kind of music are you listening to right now?

Khara: I’m not so good with favorites, as I tend to have a lot of difficulty picking just one! There is so much amazing music and so many amazing movies, same with books. The first movie that comes to mind is “Harold and Maude”. Currently, D’Angelo and the Vanguard’s “Black Messiah” is on rewind! I was recently listening to Hozier and a recording of mantras (does that count?) by a Tibetan Lama I had the privilege of meeting a couple months ago. I can go a long time appreciating “the sound of silence”, so thankfully most of the people in my life are extremely passionate about music!

 

Goddess Mena Love: What is the biggest life lesson you’ve learned so far?

Khara: That we are more than all the identifications we could ever come up with and attach to. When we are able to release these attachments we become clearer. That no one or anything is to blame, not our self or any of our relations. We do not need to fix ourselves as much as shift our focus/perspective and embrace that we were and always will be divine perfection from our source. There is nothing we cannot heal, transform or create.

 

Goddess Mena Love: Do you have any advice for people who are just starting out on this path of awakening?

Khara: There is no such thing as “too late to start”. You have always been on this path/your path and you always will be; stopping and starting are illusory distractions to the experience of your personal journey. Embrace the space that cradles us all and give yourself the compassion you deserve to rediscover your Self; to hold/nurture the being that has carried so much unnecessary weight and burden. You are the only teacher you really have. Get to know your “lack mentality” so you can fill it up with universal abundance.

 

Goddess Mena Love: Finish this statement. My life is so cool because….

Khara: My life is so cool because I can finally say with all of my being that I am happy to be alive and ready to make the most of it! It’s especially cool because of all the divine beings that have walked before and shared wisdom and all the divine beings that walk with me now and share wisdom enabling me to see beyond my perceived limitations, without them who knows where I’d be! Change and growth are tremendously freeing gifts.

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Day 4 of Positivity Challenge

Today I:

1. was apart of the 7am yogi crew at Big Yoga! I am soooooooo happy there is now a 7am class! #PossibilityIsIt #40daysthisisit

2. stood in a fire ant bush early this morning (that’s not the positive part). I was tempted to turn around and go back home to get the tea tree/lavender oil to relieve the irritation, but kept driving to Big Yoga anyway.  I scratched on those ant bites all the way to the studio. When I got there, I asked if I could use a few drops of lavender oil on the areas I was bit (foot/hand), and it was all to the good after that!!

3. instead of watching Atlanta Exes, I chose to read the required reading material from 40 Days To Personal Revolution!

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The Buddha Spotlight: Author of Mama Glow – Latham Thomas

Namaste y’all!

The Buddha Spotlight introduces you to Latham Thomas

 

Goddess Mena Love: Do you have any advice for women trying to conceive naturally?

Latham Thomas:  Stop “trying” and start being. Now what do I mean by that- procreation, like any other natural process does not require thinking, planning or strategizing- it’s really not about designing your sex life around when you are ovulating, it’s about practicing a lot with your partner, having a lot of good sex on a regular basis as a training ground to boost your fertility. With conception- its less about control and more about surrender, letting go, and being receptive, which happens when you relax and forget about the outcome, and focus on being in the moment. Embody the sexiness and have fun!

 

Goddess Mena Love:  How important is meditation while pregnant?

Latham:  I believe you should implement practices that work for you. Some people don’t enjoy meditation- because they aren’t ready for it. So they have to find a way to transcend that they enjoy. There are lots of benefits to meditating while pregnant- including increased oxygen flow to baby.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  How important is to change your diet before & during pregnancy?

Latham:  What you eat will become the building blocks of your future child. Would you rather build a castle of sand or of stone? Preconception detoxification- which I outline in the pre-pregnancy section of the book, and a healthy plant based diet of whole foods with a focus on what I’ve termed “glow foods” for optimal wellness. Find recipes on www.MamaGlow.com.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  Tell me about your doula experience.  What inspired you to become a doula?

Latham:  Becoming a doula seemed like a natural progression to my work. I was serving pregnant women in my prenatal yoga classes, many of them found that my soothing energy and sense of calm was just what they wanted when they went into labor. I applied for a fellowship and was trained as a doula with the Hudson Perinatal Consortium. My experience as a doula has influenced every aspect of my life, including my parenting. A lot of the principals echo teachings from yoga. I have learned to trust the process, go with the flow, watch and wait, listen, take a back seat and support each of these lessons are addressed in my book as well.

 

 

Goddess Mena Love:  Any advice for women who would like to become a doula?

Latham:  Listen to the calling to serve. Find a community.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned on your path of awakening?

Latham:  The birth of my son was the biggest lesson.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What’s music are you listening to, right now? What’s in your playlist?

Latham:  I listen to everything- it depends on my mood. Lots of classic soul. I love Baptize by RKCB.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What advice do you have for women going through depression (i.e. post partum depression) without a healthy team of support?

Latham:  It’s important to build a sister circle of support around you especially if you have a history of depression prior to pregnancy. See http://mamaglow.com/get-help-depression-pregnancy-alone/

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What is your favorite quote?

Latham:  Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know. ~Pema Chodron

 

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What are some tips for manifesting dreams into reality?

Latham:  I don’t use the word “manifest” all things are born from the womb- from the feminine principal. So I use language that reflects our power in being creatrixes. Wombifesting– is about creating a vacuum and drawing what you want to yourself rather than chasing it down. Dreams are reality waiting to happen if you align your beliefs, actions then they are born. Focus on one thing and nurture it- where you focus your energy fruit is born.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  How important is it to speak affirmations to yourself?

Latham:  It’s very important to speak blessings on yourself. But if you don’t believe what you are saying it doesn’t work. Words are powerful and can heal.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What’s your meditation destination?

Latham:  I don’t go someplace in my mind- I allow the sensations moving through me to take the driver’s seat.

 

 

Goddess Mena Love:  Are you a vegan or vegetarian? How important is it to change your diet while living a spiritual life?

Latham:  I eat a vegan diet and it works for me. I’ve been vegan since I was 14. I believe assessing your diet is always a positive thing. Your diet may need to change periodically- certainly with the seasons for instance. The more you eat high vibrational whole foods- the better you feel. Plants specifically have information that programs our cells.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What’s your favorite healthy comfort food?

Latham:  Popcorn cooked in coconut oil and topped with truffle salt.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  What is your favorite healing plant?

Latham:  Yarrow and Raspberry leaf.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  When you are not at home, how do you create peace for yourself?

Latham:  I’m a Taurus so I always have to feel grounded wherever I am. I bring objects that make me feel cozy while traveling. But otherwise when I close my eyes and breathe I make space for myself.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  No one speaks too much about consciously dating. What are your views on dating or being in a relationship with a mate that may not fully understand the path you’re on?

Latham:  I date who I feel a magnetic affinity toward. Who inspires me and who I inspire. I don’t expect him to understand my path- it’s for me to unfold. All I expect is for him to respect what I am doing, and where I am headed and just support me along the journey. If you focus on just being yourself and leading by example- the best in you will influence your partner and vice versa.

 

Goddess Mena Love:  Any advice for people who are just starting out on this path of awakening?

Latham:  Listen to the whispers within.

 

 

 

Latham Thomas is a maternity lifestyle maven, women’s wellness & birth coach, on the vanguard of transforming the maternal & women’s wellness movement. A graduate of Columbia University & The Institute for Integrative Nutrition, Latham is the founder of Mama Glow  a holistic lifestyle hub for women to explore optimal wellbeing. Her practice provides support to pre/postnatal women along their journey to motherhood offering culinary and nutritional services, yoga, and birth coaching services. She is co-founder of the Mama Glow Film Festival- a platform for maternal advocacy through film and philanthropy which launched in 2011 with Christy Turlington-Burns and Selita Ebanks. Latham recently launched the Mama Glow Salon Series– a platform for birthing conversations around cocktails, panels, and discussions. Latham launched the Mama Glow Salon Series in 2012 hosting the east coast premiere of Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein’s film More Business of Being Born. Bridging the gap between optimal wellness, spiritual growth, and radical self-care Latham Thomas is emerging as the go-to-guru for modern holistic lifestyle for women during pregnancy and beyond!
Latham is a recurring guest on the Style Network hit show Tia and Tamera, where she has served as Tamera’s doula. A sought after nutrition and lifestyle expert, her television appearances include The Dr. Oz Show, Fox News LIVE, CBS News, ABC Eyewitness News, NBC-LXTV, The Couch, TODAY Show Australia, and Inside Edition. She has been featured in the London Times Sunday Styles Magazine, Du Jour, Fit Pregnancy, Style Network online, GQ British, New York Daily News, New York Post, Time Out New York, Vogue.com, Whole Living, Essence Magazine, the cover of Experience Life Magazine, Global Grind, and VegNews Magazine, Cosmopolitan. She is the host of the new Scripps network web series- Om on the Go which features fitness interviews with: Venus Williams, Gabrielle Bernstein,  Daphne Oz, Kris Carr, and more. Latham was selected to speak on an esteemed panel at Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Conference at City Center alongside Dr. Dean Ornish, Lucy Danziger and Mark Bertolini.
She lives in New York City with her son Fulano and their turtle Climby. Latham’s first book- “Mama Glow: A Hip Guide to Your Fabulous Abundant Pregnancy”, foreword by Christiane Northrup, M.D. debuted at #1 on Amazon in November of 2012. Latham celebrated the launch of her anticipated book in partnership with Morgan Stanley, Fit Pregnancy and hosted by fashion maven and client Rebecca Minkoff. Mama Glow has been endorsed by esteemed physicians including Frank Lipman, M.D., Mark Hyman, M.D., Neal Barnard, M.D., Richard Ash, M.D. and Lissa Rankin, M.D.  Latham is helping to green the planet one belly at a time.

 

© Copyright 2014 – Goddess Mena Love. All Rights Reserved

New Thought

Today I accept the true function of my body. I accept that my body is an instrument for extending LOVE. As I heal my own perceptions of my body I will realize I am a vessel for sharing LOVE with the world. My healing will be extended into the world.

-Gabrielle Bernstein, May Cause Miracles

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Review: Being Mary Jane S1E2 Girls Night In

Mary Jane & Andre

So I thought Mary Jane was dreaming when episode 2 opened up with her walking down that hall! OMG, not EVEN knowing that Andre would be opening the door. His pretentious ass leaned in for a very unwelcoming kiss, and Mary Jane wasn’t having it,  she backed away! Andre was so trying with Mary Jane, trying to get her to remember all of the happy times together. And all I’m starting to think is that Andre really LOVES her! Mary Jane is totally feeling disgusted in his presence. He proceeds to tell her about how he was gonna tell her about his wife and kids but wanted to make sure that she would be cool? Lol, yes cool, that she was okay with having the wife and kids in their life because he JUST CAN’T HAVE THAT, while walking anxiously to the other side of the room to get a small blue box. That’s right, a small blue ring box! And as he’s all in her ear, she’s looking at that ring, like that’s the ring she’s always wanted, and with Andre. Everything he said to Mary Jane pretty much seemed like  it was going in one ear and out the other. I couldn’t figure out what that paper he had in his hand, but if you know, let me know (*comment below, please). So anyway, HE FREAKIN’ PROPOSED TO HER!!! REALLY? See, I’m trying to really understand how I feel about her even accepting his  proposal. I’ve personally been on both sides of that coin! In her honest feelings, she said to him, “All you do is make me cry”, and walked out the door.

Now seriously, for real, tell me what you think about this scene?!! I mean put yourself in Mary Jane’s shoes. What would you do?

I LOVE the weekly quotes! Last weeks’s quote was from Bob Dylan. This week it was

“The woman who catches a man’s eye earn’s a purse, the woman that captures his heart earns his world”

-Chris Brew

So next scene, is Mary Jane on that “move forward, SELF-LOVE” plan, focusing on more care for herself in this hurtful time in her life! And that’s great too, I know that when I’m dealing with a breakup, or space apart, I totally go into SELF-LOVE mode! Instead of being depressed and unconscious of the type of healing that is required, I totally get into healing myself by caring more and LOVING more on myself. It’s an awesome way to heal from a break up.

Mary Jane & Family

Mary Jane goes by to pick up her niece for a doctor’s appointment, pulling up to her dad washing his luxury car. I like learning more about the story line between her mom and dad. It helps me to understand why her mother has that “nagging” energy. Being that his wife has no LOVE for life anymore, Dad, to me, is living life as if she’s not even here.

Another story line I’m interested in getting to know, is this damn niece! The niece, “Niecey”, has a sorry ass baby daddy that ain’t showing up to be what he needs to be right now, which is stressful to some family members.

Andre & Avery

 Andre walks in his home, almost looking prepared to tell his wife that he is moving on. Avery’s ass played the role, functioning as if she knows nothing about another woman! But wait, she starts telling Andre about Jill,  the tax attorney, who used to flirt with Andre all the time, and who just found out her husband is cheating on her. Yes, Jill finds out that her husband was cheating on her, basically took responsibility for her part in the unLOVED relationship, and had him sign a post-nup! A post-nup which says that she get’s the house, the kids and pays a “crazy load of alimony”, and then Avery slides Andre some type of document. That document was his post-nup to be signed. The conditions of the post-nup were both houses, 75% of the marketing firm, and of course, full custody of the kids! Ha, is it cheaper to keep her or what?! He looks at it, says she ain’t taking the kids, slides the paper back to her and attempts to walk the hell away! “You do LOVE her”, said Avery, while Andre looked at her like “uh oh”, because he soooooo didn’t tell her that he was cheating.

Mary Jane & Family

Niecey is on the couch, waiting for her baby’s father to come pick her up for the “rescheduled” doctor’s appointment, when her dad (Mary Jane’s brother) tells her that baby daddy ain’t coming. Naively, Niecey says he would come because he supposedly wanted to hear the baby’s heartbeat. Her dad is like, “um no”! What is Mary Jane’s brother’s name??

While at work, in her office, Mary Jane receives a package from Andre! Yes, the small blue ring box with a note attached that read, “Promise me you’ll think about it”. Andre’s world is closing in on him. Is he about to be left all alone? No wife, no girlfriend! Mary Jane looked at that ring, in remembrance, embracing and feeling how great it would feel to be married to him. After going back and forth with the decision of the possibility of being married to him, she puts the ring in a drawer.

Cara & Mary Jane

The Cara and Mary Jane situation is kinda on my nerves. It seems as if Cara, working on Mike’s show without, discussing the details with Mary Jane, first, has Mary Jane feeling some type of way. Cara then calls out Mary Jane, on “the angry black woman” card , but Mary Jane flips it and says, “when you’re messing with my money, I’m not angry, I”M PISSED!”

Dinner with Dad

Daddy ordered Mary Jane a ginger margarita! I want one! Dad and mom have been in a stress point in their marriage for 20 years, because of mom’s Lupus. He feels like there are times when she will return to her LOVING self, but then reflects on how many years it’s really been and totally doubts it. Dad tells Mary Jane, he’s married, reminding her of the vows he took. He then says that he can’t wait for the day that special guy calls him to ask for Mary Jane’s hand in marriage, he’s gonna give him such a hard time. Mary Jane’s response….”you think it’s gonna be that traditional”. Because yeah Dad, she has been in a relationship with a married man, and has frozen her “FWB” partner’s sperm! Just then, Catherine, comes in. Catherine is an attractive, seasoned woman, friends of Mary Jane’s mom and dad. Dad is so super surprised to see Catherine, with that gleam in his eyes (yeah, I seen that). And Mary Jane, peeped game on the energy between the two as well.  When Catherine leaves, Mary Jane tells her dad, “you know she wants to do nasty things to you”. Ugh, LOL, and Dad tells her “well she should get in line”, insinuating that there’s many after him!

Mary Jane & Mark

After a short, sweet, sentimental, scene of Mary Jane waking up in the a.m., looking at “the ring”, we delve a little deeper into the Cara, Mark, Mary Jane situation. Mark tells Mary Jane that Cara is desperately needed to produce his show because of low ratings, and Cara is basically saving his ass. Mary Jane feels like regardless of everything , Cara should have told her that she was going to be producing  Mark’s show. Switching  gears, Mary Jane and Mark began to talk about marriage because of the ring on his finger. Mark is a gay man, wanting to marry his partner legally, but can’t because of the law in the state of Georgia. Mary Jane says that him and the “rainbow team”, have a better chance of getting married than her, which she’s totally trying to embrace. With all that she’s growing through with David, and Andre, marriage does not look like it’s in her cards.

Mary Jane & Family Life

Mary Jane arrive’s to the family’s house where she is greeted by her 3 nieces, who tell her that Niecey is upstairs crying because her sorry ass boyfriend never came to take her to the doctor’s appointment. She walked in the kitchen to see her brother cooking, and asked him about the “missed appointment”. Mary Jane’s brother tells her he took her to the doctor’s appointment and that Niecey is hurt, and not really in the mood for criticism. But then he also tells her about some lady staying for dinner, and is in the living room talking with dad. Immediately, Mary Jane walks to the living room, because she instinctively knows it’s Catherine, and sure enough, it was her!! Catherine and Dad was sitting on the couch, body language from the both were very engaging as they laughed together! So Mary Jane walked up on them, as if she was trying to intimidate Catherine, asking her “so soon?”, referring to the fact that Mary Jane and Dad just seen her at the restaurant the night before and  now she’s visiting! Helen, Mary Jane’s mom comes out to greet Catherine, while Mary Jane gives her dad the look like “I see what’s going on!”

Andre & Avery

Andre walks in his home with his kids. He walks upstairs to his bedroom, hearing cries from the closet, he follows. Avery is in the closet boo hooing, and when she sees him, she screams ” get out!”,  throwing shoes and anything else she could get her hands on! Andre walks out, but sits on the bed. You can tell that he feels some sort of remorse for putting his wife through that pain.

Mary Jane & Family Life

Mary Jane  tells her mom that Catherine didn’t come over with the best intentions, hoping that she would react. Mom, basically told her , she already knows what Catherine’s about! And what a way to take that whole situation! Mom knows she’s dying, she knows that Catherine wants Dad, but also is at peace with knowing that Dad would be just fine with Catherine, instead of miserably mourning over her.That “nagging mom” image went out the window, when we were able to see the mom/wife that the family LOVES so much, reminiscing of her days before she was sick. Mary Jane, listens wholeheartedly.

Girls Night In

Cara comes in with wine as a peace offering asking Mary Jane for forgiveness, Mary Jane accepts. When a knock on the door slightly disturbs their groove, Mary Jane alerts the ladies that there is a cop at the door. She opens the door, with ladies peeking behind the corner of the wall, and the cop is hella yummy! Yes, and that hella yummy cop was a male stripper!!! Girls night in is in full effect!

Andre & Avery

First off, why is Andre is still there? But then as his wife is moisturizing her body on their bed, he suggests that he should leave, now that the kids are sleep. Bitter and hurt, Avery reminds him that when she met him, he was a corny guy in sales who used to drive a raggedy Mercedes. Avery claims she built and made Andre into the man that every woman wants. She then flipped the argument into “who is gonna want this”, grabbing at her baby fat and  stretch marks, saying “you used to say they were beautiful”.

Girls Nite In

So the girl who took over Mary Jane’s job (Tomiko) at the last station, is at the GNI. Lisa, the girl who accidentally overdosed on prescription pills was there, too. I was a little confused on that. The topic of having an affair with a married man was brought up when one of the ladies claimed of getting luxurious items from the married man she was dating. And on a side note, who really feels that way? I’m not judging by asking that question, just wanna know your opinions on dating a married man. Did you all peep the cop still chillin’ with the girls while they were dishin out their dirty little secrets?!

Everybody had a secret to tell after the one lady confessed of her involvement with a married man. Cara slept with the fine ass undocumented, young latino at the station. Lisa admitted to smoking marijuana, purchased from Mary Jane’s brother, in her bathroom. Tomiko confessed that she bought her engagement ring because she didn’t like the ring her fiance bought, which in return makes her feel like she’s emasculated her man. And finally Mary Jane tells her dirty little secret of hiding David’s “NEVER ANSWER” sperm in the freezer.

Andre & Avery

Andre & Avery are in a heated debated when Andre’s cell phone goes off. He’s getting multiple messages from Mary Jane because she is now ready to talk. The scenes flip back and forth from Andre and Avery arguing about the lack of sex in their marriage and that being the demise of their failing marriage, and Mary Jane texting him, wondering why the hell he isn’t replying. Andre and Avery’s heated debate turned into a night of passion, while Mary Jane waited for Andre to reply. The next morning when Mary Jane woke up, she searched for her phone in bed, only to see that after all that texting to Andre, he never replied! So she’s probably thinking that he’s decided to work it out with his wife.

Hmmmm, so what do you all think? Is Andre gonna stay with his wife or be with Mary Jane?

And I totally forgot to mention “stealing sperm” from episode 1. Really? Are women doing this?

Daily Affirmation 9.9.13

Today’s daily affirmation is especially for my oldest son, DreLan! Dre woke up, on his 15th birthday, today with a sore throat!!

I release all restraints, and I am free to be me.

The probable cause of why Dre’s throat is sore, could be due to the fact that he is holding in angry words and feeling unable to express himself. Hmmmm, this may have a lot to do with how he is currently feeling about his little brother, Xavier.

So, my mother came by yesterday to drop off Dre’s birthday gift, something he’s been asking for, for about 6 months now.  She said, as soon as Dre realized what was in his birthday bag, he screamed!! I wish I could have been there to see his face!! My mother got him a favorite video game he’s been dying to own, Black Ops 2. Well, during his time playing his favorite game, Xavier decided to hog the play time on Dre’s video game. So, I’m sure Dre has a few angry words he’ll LOVE to unleash on Xavier very soon, if Xavier doesn’t hurry up and realize that Black Ops 2 was not a gift for him! Before he gets to that point, I’ll make sure Dre recites this affirmation for healing, I’ll  add on some reiki for extra healing, and also speak with him about healthy ways to release anger! Gotta LOVE new age parenting!!

Light & LOVE y’all!